Dear Mamas,
Get in the picture. Stop hiding behind the camera and step in front of it with your babies. Hand your camera over to your partner, your friend, your neighbor, ANYONE walking by on the street, and ask them to please take a picture of you and your kids together.
You already know that these years go by too quickly. You already know that your children are only this little for a little while. I don’t need to remind you of any of that.
But 20 years from now when your kids are looking back at old family photos, you don’t want them to ask you, “Wait, mom, where were you? Why aren’t you in any pictures with us?”
And 30 years from now when your kids are becoming parents to little ones of their own, they’re going to want to see YOU in the same stage that they are going through. They’re going to want to see you pregnant, you as a brand new mom, you as an exhausted but ridiculously happy toddler mama. They’ll want to see you getting your hands messy and baking with your family, you running into the waves with your kids at the beach, and you cheering them on at their first sports game or recital or play. They’ll just want to see YOU in the pictures.
During Grayson’s first year, I was always the one taking the pictures. As he was about to turn one I realized that I barely had any photos of the two of us together except from our Fresh 48 session at the hospital, a few photos I prioritized on my first Mother’s Day, and some cell phone photos.
So I did three things.
• I started handing my camera off to my husband and asked him to take some photos of us just doing regular stuff together. A lot of photos were blurry or my head was cut off, but hey, at least I was in the picture!
• I started using a tripod and capturing more of our everyday moments at home. Cuddling up together after nap, learning to walk, playing on the kitchen floor. The simple motherhood moments that I knew I wanted to remember forever.
• And I booked two professional portrait sessions — one family session, and one mommy & me session. Those two photos at the top of this blog post? They are two of my most treasured photos, and both of them are hanging up in our house so that I can enjoy them every single day and remember how perfectly Grayson fit in my arms!